Intuitive Coaching 101: When the Law of Attraction Does Not Work

DSCN8883For several years, I watched and rewatched various Law of Attraction videos on YouTube. I read books by the most famous proponents of LoA, I joined webinars, I engaged with rampages of good feeling thoughts and I did the work. So, then why didn’t I manifest my own home, a harmonious relationship with a life partner, etc?

If you’re one of the small percentage of people who has found success with LoA work then read no further. However, if you are somone who suffers from post trauma and used LoA practices as a way to dissociate from the pain in your life or as a way to avoid releasing trauma in your subconscious and hidden in the sensations of your body, then continue reading.

Know this, it’s not your fault that you haven’t manifested your desires. Frequencies hidden in our subconscious mind (90 percent of the brain that is running the show). This is not to say that you are victim of your past, but that it’s time to do some deep healing work through programs such as ancestral DNA clearing.

And also ask yourself if those things and situations you desire belong to you or are something you’re supposed to desire based on societal standards? I find the number of videos on YouTube featuring mansions, designer cars, and the jetsetting lifestyle nauseating. Why doesn’t anyone desire world peace, living in balance with nature, or being surrounded by people who can equally give and receive love? How is getting stuck in material manifestation regarded as awakening when awakening is of spirit and not the physical reality, at least from my understanding of spirituality?

But just when you’re about to toss the baby out with the dirty bathwater, stop yourself. There are some metaphysical tools that bear fruit when aligned with therapy that addresses beliefs and patterns hidden in the subconscious mind.

First, let’s look at Creative Visualization as presented to us back in the 1980s by Shakti Gaiwan. I went through several copies of her book with that title. And I manifested a foreign exchange program, boyfriends, the completion of musical projects, and other endeavors using these tools. Now, most important, when using creative visualization we always state, “For the Highest Good of All Concerned, may this or something better manifest for me.” When I forgot that part, I was not happy with the results.

Second, vision boards have reaped fruit for me. I have found myself in relationships with people who resemble the pictures on my vision boards. I have manifested clothing, shoes, and circumstances presented in the collages I created. And I think these boards work well with the subconscious mind or programming the mind. However, we can easily sabotage the good stuff when it arrives if we’ve not dealt with unconscious beliefs of not feeling worthy of those goods and situations. And that’s painful when the partner of your dreams shows up and you end up hurting this person.

Positive thoughts work when they’re not used as a form of dissociating from the truth. Meaning, we would never place a Band-Aid on a gaping wound so why do we cover up tragic situations and grief with a smiley face? Even Louise Hay says to write down feelings and thoughts that come up when reciting affirmations so that we can delve into the beliefs behind those thoughts. In that regard, affirmations are like mirrors that reveal the truth of our souls.

Any manifestation process should be considered as a personal endeavor for growth and evolution of an individual. We might all be part of this earth adventure but we’re not all sharing the same path or beliefs. Therefore, keep your mantras to yourself and spare people who are suffering the worst mantra of all, “you create your own reality.” I gag everytime some proclaims that sentiment.

For most people I’ve met who sing that song, are using the mantra to dissociate from their shadows and projections. When we dissociate from the real work that lies underneath our conscious mind, we don’t evolve. And maybe other people are just mirroring the uglier truth we don’t want to face in ourselves. And then we don’t claim our power through the alchemical process. Every person who crosses our path presents an opportunity for evolution to us, but we have to get past our judgments and perceptions. And if we are on the road to self-empowerment then it’s best to use every pitfall and pot of gold that lands on our paths. And then there are the moments of grace and surprises that were gifts from the Universe.

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Published by pnwauthor

I'm a former Washingtonian from Washington State, not Washington DC. I currently reside in Pennsylvania, even though my dream was to live and work in Vermont.

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