I noticed that women have a challenging time saying “no” to others’ requests. Our mothers taught us to be good girls and not hurt the feelings of others. And our moms also taught us to enable others instead of fostering a sense of responsibility in them. However, the following advice works for women and men.
Learning to set boundaries sends the abusers and manipulators packing. Reasonable people understand boundaries. Setting boundaries sound easy but if no one taught us how to protect our space, time, and energy, then this practice seems uncomfortable. Some people might suffer panic attacks when learning how to say the magical word, “no”.
Roadblocks that prevent us from setting boundaries:
- Saying no seems rude or unkind
- We would rather please another person than confront them
- We fear revenge
- We fear getting fired
- We fear abandonment
It’s never too late to reclaim your power. A visit to YouTube or self-help blogs offers instructions for successfully setting boundaries. Many self-help books cover this important practice. Or hire a professional counselor or coach to take you to the next step.