Intuitive Coaching 101: 5 Roadblocks to Saying No




I noticed that women have a challenging time saying “no” to others’ requests. Our mothers taught us to be good girls and not hurt the feelings of others. And our moms also taught us to enable others instead of fostering a sense of responsibility in them. However, the following advice works for women and men.

Learning to set boundaries sends the abusers and manipulators packing. Reasonable people understand boundaries.  Setting boundaries sound easy but if no one taught us how to protect our space, time, and energy, then this practice seems uncomfortable. Some people might suffer panic attacks when learning how to say the magical word, “no”.

Roadblocks that prevent us from setting boundaries:

  • Saying no seems rude or unkind
  • We would rather please another person than confront them
  • We fear revenge
  • We fear getting fired
  • We fear abandonment

It’s never too late to reclaim your power. A visit to YouTube or self-help blogs offers instructions for successfully setting boundaries. Many self-help books cover this important practice. Or hire a professional counselor or coach to take you to the next step.

Published by pnwauthor

I reside in the rainy Pacific NW (Washington State) where I write novels, short "green" fiction, and poetry. I also go for walks capturing the beauty around me on my digital and freelance as an arts and culture journalist. When I'm not doing all of the above (and sometimes multi-tasking), I research the healing power of music. You can learn more about that at Whole Music Experience, and I teach workshops on healing with music.

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